The Secrets of Healthy Relationships3 min read

Hello Friends,?Today, I just felt like expressing my thoughts on relationships. What I have learnt so far and that has helped me in keeping up with others, especially in my bad times. Whatever I am going to write below is my own personal veiws and doesn’t mean to disrespect or disregard what others think about it.

The Secret of a healthy relationship is way?too simple, infact, it is?so simple that people simply pass over or look?for a way which is rather complicated. Well, that’s the tendency. Because, we like stuff which is more expensive in price rather than expensive in values.

Secret #1 – Look at?the things the way they are…

This is really the most simplest thing to understand in order to?pursue a good healthy relationship. We all have a tendency to create a?perception of a person as we look at him/her. We start making moral judgements about the way he/she is dressed up, or the way he/she walks, the way he/she talks etc etc etc… the list goes on. All these things happens in less than 5 seconds. Our mind rushes through our past experience and beliefs to create a perception of that person based on his/her superficial aspects. Well, if you do this, Stop?It Right Away!

Secret #2 – Be Concerned about your own-self

A Haryanvi sold a buffalo to a Punjabi. After a week or so the Punjabi frustratingly returns to Haryanvi and says ? ‘Re Jaat ! Thaari bhains kaani hai‘ (Dear Haryanvi ! Your buffalo has an eye issue).

To this the Haryanvi answers:-

‘Re sardar ! Tanney Bhains se Doodh kaadna hai ya Aaankh matakaa karna se’?(Are you to milk the buffalo or romance it in her eyes’?)

This is exactly what’s going on in this world. People are more concerned about things that don’t matter, rather than their own self. You must not waste your time thinking about the ‘people issues’ in your lives. Just stop for a moment and think, What good can come by wasting time thinking about other people?issues? What if you take this time and rather think of all the ‘Raita’ in your own?life. You can improve yourself by investing that time?in yourself.

Secret #3 – Live to Enjoy not to Impress other

Do things which matters the most to you. Things which makes you happy and?not something just to show off. We are not slaves. I believe that we all are here for a purpose, and that purpose is definitely not to impress others. Life is to live and enjoy and do all sorts of things which makes YOU happy and not others. Because, note one thing, you cannot do anything to make others happy unless they want to be (Kuch bhi Karlo, dusre ko khush tab tak nai kar sakte jab tak wo khud na hona chahe). That?is the truth of life. So, stop wasting time to impress others and make your life enriching.

The above secrets are not really the secrets and we all have heard it somewhere or the other. But?then,?Why don’t we practice it, if we know it already. Just live life the way it is.?Nothing Lasts forever, so live it up…drink it down…laugh it off….avoid the bullshit & never have regrets becoz at one point everything you did was exactly what you wanted… Life is a celebration.. Keep on celebrating… And remember that the FAILURE is SUCCESS IN PROGRESS. If you liked this article then you must also go through this article posted by Priyanka Yadav on How to Keep Your Relationship Moving Forward.?

And As Always,



  • Article By: Varun Shrivastava

  • Varun Shrivastava is an innovative Full Stack Developer at ThoughtWorks with around 4 years of experience in building enterprise software systems in finance and retail domain. Experienced in design, development, and deployment of scalable software. He is a passionate blogger and loves to write about philosophy, programming, tech and relationships. This is his space, you can get in touch with him here anytime you want.